Slave Day
If you are female, in a relationship and read this (which I realize narrows it down significantly), I have a question for you about your boyfriend/husband/f-buddy: If your wish were his command, what would you wish?
I ask because I have an idea to try the next time I'm dating someone: Slave Day.
Here's the the way it works: A couple days beforehand, I tell her that a particular day is "Slave Day." I am at her service however she wants to use me. If that means I scrub floors, wash dishes and run errands all day, OK. If she wants me bathe her, massage her and perform any other, um, personal services she needs (kiss you there?), better. I am available to cater to her every whim.
The only restrictions would be that the tasks can't involve spending more than nominal amounts of money; they can't hurt me (not too much anyway!) or harm my health; they can't publicly embarass me and I can use the bathroom whenever I want.
Other than that, I am hers to use as she wishes all day.
Why?
A few reasons. It would be a nice treat for her. It would show her that I'll do things for her whether I benefit or not. It might help our communication skills if she can feel comfortable asking for what she wants. And I think I'll learn a lot about her.
This isn't not about wanting to be submissive or any B.S. like that other than the occasional wish we all have to put our mind on idle and let someone else drive it for a while, to borrow a phrase.
She will have no obligation to reciprocate. This isn't like Miranda on Sex And The City saying, "I only give head to get head." This would be a chance for me to know I gave without taking.
What do you think? If your sig other offered himself to you like this, would you like it? How would you spend the day?
I ask because I have an idea to try the next time I'm dating someone: Slave Day.
Here's the the way it works: A couple days beforehand, I tell her that a particular day is "Slave Day." I am at her service however she wants to use me. If that means I scrub floors, wash dishes and run errands all day, OK. If she wants me bathe her, massage her and perform any other, um, personal services she needs (kiss you there?), better. I am available to cater to her every whim.
The only restrictions would be that the tasks can't involve spending more than nominal amounts of money; they can't hurt me (not too much anyway!) or harm my health; they can't publicly embarass me and I can use the bathroom whenever I want.
Other than that, I am hers to use as she wishes all day.
Why?
A few reasons. It would be a nice treat for her. It would show her that I'll do things for her whether I benefit or not. It might help our communication skills if she can feel comfortable asking for what she wants. And I think I'll learn a lot about her.
This isn't not about wanting to be submissive or any B.S. like that other than the occasional wish we all have to put our mind on idle and let someone else drive it for a while, to borrow a phrase.
She will have no obligation to reciprocate. This isn't like Miranda on Sex And The City saying, "I only give head to get head." This would be a chance for me to know I gave without taking.
What do you think? If your sig other offered himself to you like this, would you like it? How would you spend the day?
posted by jack at 8:43 PM
4 Comments:
this is a good question!
hmmm...what i would wish for??
i don't think i'd wish for him to do any particular chores. for me it would be all about romantic stuff. in fact, if he showered me with attention, complimented me (with sincere compliments, not just the perfunctory, 'you look nice'), and just was into hanging out with me, i'd LOVE it.
i wouldn't want him to do anything too unnatural for him or have him spend a lot of money. in fact, i would love it if he'd suggest we pack up a picnic basket and go to central park to just sit and eat and talk. (though box seats to a yankees game would DEFINITELY make my day...)
i'd want him to do the little romantic and chivalrous things he did in the beginning when we were dating...i'd like him to remember details and share with me things he likes or loves about me that he hasn't told me yet.
and in terms of sex? i'd want him to do anything i asked of him...and i'd gladly return the favor. after a day of him pleasing me, i would be more than show him thanks...
Sammie:
That's the thing. He's not to suggest anything. He's going to enthusiastically embrace anything that you suggest.
That's the downside to Slave Day for the partner who's the "master." She has to make all the decisions about how both of them spend the day.
It's a big responsibility. Wield it wisely.
But have fun. That's the idea.
you're right, it is a big responsibility.
honestly, i think it would be awesome if my guy was down for doing whatever i suggested for one entire day. i don't think i'd know how to handle it!
i think i'm a bit of an atypical woman - because my ideal day would involve a good meal, sex and sports(preferably baseball, but a good basketball game would do too). i'm not into flowers or chocolates or him buying me little presents... HOWEVER, on that specified "Slave Day", even if we didn't do anything special, my guy would absolutely have to shower me with affection, cuddle with me and say really romantic stuff the WHOLE day long...
I like the idea, but I think I'd have a hard time with it...I don't wield power over others well at all. I think I'd need more than one of these days (although not in a row) to get acclimated to the idea.
I just don't focus on myself well at all. Then again, that's likely why I end up in relationships where it's all about him and only nominally about me.
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