That's Nice
A post on Sammie's blog gave me a chance to do some wishful thinking. Nice guys do not always finish last, she says. You know as well as I do that when a woman says that she usually means that she wishes her jerk of a boyfriend would act nicer. I don't know Sammie's boyfriend; I don't even know Sammie so I can't know if that's the case here.
All I know is that a girl once refused to take me seriously as a potential boyfriend because, in her words, "you're too nice." Hard to believe, I know. How could anyone mistake me for someone nice? I should have sued her for slander. You can't repair your reputation from such an accusation.
And how do you refute that? "No, really! I'm a complete bastard! You'd love me!"
But saying I was too nice was probably only cover for what she really meant:
"You're too poor."
It took me a while to figure that out. Once I did I felt a lot better. She wasn't going to marry an accountant; she was going to marry an account number. Not many women are out of my league, I like to think. But some are out of my price range.
Luckily, not many of the latter are ones I'd like to spend more than one night with anyway and even then I'd only want that much if I could skip out before she woke up.
I'm not suggesting that most women are gold digging damsels seeking rescue from financial distress. But do you really think it's coincidence that the words finance and fiance are spelled so similarly? Hmmm. Got you thinking, now, don't I?
When it comes down to it, if a woman has to choose between a guy with big bulge in the front of his pants or one with the bulge in the back of them (presuming it's from his wallet and not from some unfortunate accident) she's going to pick the one with whom she'll never have to come up on the short end of the shaft on the mortgage payment.
I don't blame her. Part of selecting a mate is determining which of the available candidates help build the strongest family. In the world today, security often means financial security.
Sammie, I appreciate the sentiment, sweetie, but I'm not buying it.
All I know is that a girl once refused to take me seriously as a potential boyfriend because, in her words, "you're too nice." Hard to believe, I know. How could anyone mistake me for someone nice? I should have sued her for slander. You can't repair your reputation from such an accusation.
And how do you refute that? "No, really! I'm a complete bastard! You'd love me!"
But saying I was too nice was probably only cover for what she really meant:
"You're too poor."
It took me a while to figure that out. Once I did I felt a lot better. She wasn't going to marry an accountant; she was going to marry an account number. Not many women are out of my league, I like to think. But some are out of my price range.
Luckily, not many of the latter are ones I'd like to spend more than one night with anyway and even then I'd only want that much if I could skip out before she woke up.
I'm not suggesting that most women are gold digging damsels seeking rescue from financial distress. But do you really think it's coincidence that the words finance and fiance are spelled so similarly? Hmmm. Got you thinking, now, don't I?
When it comes down to it, if a woman has to choose between a guy with big bulge in the front of his pants or one with the bulge in the back of them (presuming it's from his wallet and not from some unfortunate accident) she's going to pick the one with whom she'll never have to come up on the short end of the shaft on the mortgage payment.
I don't blame her. Part of selecting a mate is determining which of the available candidates help build the strongest family. In the world today, security often means financial security.
Sammie, I appreciate the sentiment, sweetie, but I'm not buying it.
posted by jack at 8:33 PM
7 Comments:
WOW.
a few things...
you do have a point that when i said nice guys don't finish last, i do wish that my boyfriend would act nicer. sure he's a 'nice guy' but I wish he was more consistent with being more sensitive or considerate of my feelings.
now, about women choosing a bank account over an actual decent guy...there are a lot of gold-digging bitches out there, yes. unfortunately some women make superficial choices, but i think it's rather quick for you to imply that their choice is obvious.
i know that much of what is seen on tv or experienced in life seems to indicate that women choose the "one with the bulge in the back" of their pants. BUT there are woman who don't. REALLY. I, for one, am one of them. Maybe we are few and far between, but they exist.
I am actually the "bread-winner" between my boyfriend and me. His wallet and what he's got in it is of no importance to me. Even if i wasn't financially secure, money is the last thing i look for in a guy.
so i'll say it again, i truly believe nice guys finish FIRST.
jack, sweetie, you don't buy it - that's your prerogative. just know that it wasn't just a "sentiment" to me.
Apparently I need to contact blogger about adding a tongue in cheek font.
jack, sweetie, you're funny.
it's sucks that some girl didn't consider you because you may have been "too poor".
but i really did want to get across that not all women are like that and that i do believe (and have witnessed in my own life) that the nice guy gets the good he deserves. (unfortunately it often happens later rather than sooner, but it happens!)
p.s. definitely think there should be a "tongue-in-cheek" font as well as a "sarcasm" font!
It might be time to start dating women with their own money...that way you wont worry if their motives are financially driven. Personally, I'm not looking to date anyone I need to support financially and therefore, I don't expect that either. My motto: The man or the money can run out at any time.
This comment brought to you the Committee to Remind Men that Not All Women are Gold-Diggers.
**Read with tongue in cheek font**
What's funny is that I wasn't (and still am not) poor at all. I just wasn't rich enough to live lavishly.
Hey Jack, lol, hon, you're just too funny. I pulled out my laptop and read you to my sister--btw, she'd like to know where men like you hang out. She's actually LOOKING for a guy who doesn't want a commitment, the guy who's willing to go away. She's sick of clingy men, the ones who want to talk about kids and growing old together, they're disgusting her. Where are the lovable bastards who'll screw you and disappear?
Sadly, she's NOT tongue in cheek. LOL!
Dee
Hey Jack! This is a very interesting tongue in cheek post. ;)
Believe me, I personally know some women who look at a guy's wallet and "assets" first because they are spoiled, superficial, want their guy to lavish them with material possessions, etc. I have never been one of those women just because it's not my style or in my nature.
A few years ago I met a wonderful man and I didn't know what the hell he did for a living and I didn't care. He later told me that he was SHOCKED that I didn't ask him in our first couple of dates what he did for a living because most women tend to do just that. It honestly didn't matter to me because I enjoyed talking about other things, getting to know more about him and all that good stuff. We dated for over a year and are still good friends. Anyway, I just wanted to throw that out there and I don't know why. LOL
:)
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